Life’s Story

April 24, 2015 § 4 Comments

A couple of my high school classmates have passed away in the last couple of months.  Fifty-two isn’t old, but death drudges up from my rickety memory the Philip Roth quote from Everyman, “Old age isn’t a battle: old age is a massacre.”  We are just beginning to see the first casualties on the front lines of mortality.  Our bodies don’t work exactly like they used to.

I go to the gym for the ostensible purpose of staying healthy and staving off the inevitable. Yet today as I stacked the plates on the bench press for five reps of 225 pounds on the bench press, the weight and reps felt more like an attempt myself into the deception that my body is not declining.   The illusion of the gym dissipates quickly when I get to the office and start contorting  my body and neck just to see the computer screen clearly, even with the cool, technologically blended tri-focals.

I read through the social media comments under my former classmates’ obituaries and it is hard not to wonder, “What in the hell (if anything) are they going to write about me when I’m dead?” (I will be dead, so I won’t care, but it would be nice if you were at least somewhat kind for my wife and children’s sake or if nothing was said at all.)  Yet, every comment made by my former classmates was tinged with compassion and salted with a fear of mortality.  Every commenter was searching, to the extent possible in the brevity of social media, for a sense of meaning for the deceased and for their own lives.

We are all tied into our own little subjective skulls that work valiantly to give meaning and purpose to the choices we make.  One of my classmates apparently died of AIDS, judging from the obituary, the other was the prototypical Mormon housewife by the obituary references.  Neither lifestyle protected them from death.  The comments for Jay, the classmate who died of AIDS, were all statements of sadness and regret.  The moral judgment was withheld;morality pales in the face of mortality.  My classmates on FaceBook have gratefully evolved beyond the screaming fundamentalism of the Westboro Baptists.  However, moral judgment withheld is still a sort of judgment.

The comments for Mary Ann, the Mormon housewife,  morality appeared in comments that remarked on the fullness and richness of her life.  This was a moral judgment.  Morality, or more importantly a morality that supports the beliefs and life choices of the commenter, was a solace, a judgment on the life that it was meaningful.  Mary Ann fit the narrative that we were fed that life has meaning if you are a full time mother, religious, and raise children to behave and be likewise responsible.

Despite the moral commentary, here is the thing that none of us really know.  Who had the more fulfilled, moral life?  Jay or Mary Ann?  I don’t know.  None of us can really know.  We may use conjecture and speculate; but most of us weren’t in their lives and certainly weren’t in their skin.  We have no idea if both, just one, or neither had happy fulfilling lives.

Jay grew up, as did all of us, through the AIDS crisis, although he lived through the crisis more viscerally than most of us.  Jay was gay in a time when our society ostracized homosexuals.  During all but a year of his life, Jay was unable to marry someone he fell in love with and wanted to make a life with.  Jay grew up in a religious culture that has not been particularly friendly to homosexuals.  Yet, with all those societal hardships, could Jay still have been happy?  Of course he could have.  We just don’t know.

From the account in the obituary, Mary Ann lived the life of the devout Mormon housewife, but we are equally lacking in any knowledge on how happy and fulfilling her life was.  She lived all over the world, not in Utah, so much of her life was spent in the religious minority.  Her lifestyle was as foreign to the places she lived as Utah would have been for Jay.  Secular culture would have been in direct conflict with Mary Ann’s choice to be a mother and her religion’s treatment of women.  The narrative of her religion told her she should be happy, but whether or not she was, I don’t know.  Could she have been happy and lived a fulfilling life?  Of course.  Did she?  I don’t know, nor do any of us.

We know get to face death on FaceBook, but rather than a simple “I’m sad” or “What a great life” comment, I found myself trying to make sense or mortality, an existential crisis induced by social media.   My religious upbringing taught me that the worth of a solitary, single soul has great worth in the sight of God.  This means in the eyes of the God I was taught, Jay and Mary Ann had equal value.  This is more my own internal quest for some small truth I can hang on to in the face of impending death.  What makes for a meaningful life?

We ask this question, too often in the face of death, when it is too late.  Kind of a post-mortem on whether a life was meaningful.  On the other hand, I know the seize the day philosophy, but that isn’t what I’m talking about either.  Simply seizing the moment only provides meaning for the moment, not for the narrative arc of a life.

Really, the need to create meaning is at the heart of the  human condition.  Our consciousness demands that we create stories about our lives to give them meaning.  The life must have meaning to keep us from despondency, and for our own sense of happiness and well-being.  We structure narratives around our lives that say, “My life is meaningful because . . .” Otherwise, the ever present, looming reality of mortality would push us off the nihilistic cliff.

At moments like this, I always find my thoughts racing back to Camus and the Myth of Sisyphus.  Sisyphus was condemned by the gods to push a rock up a hill for all eternity.  He would get almost to the top and the rock would roll back down to the bottom and he would need to start over again.  It was his hell, but it is the hell of existence and mortality.  We push, we aspire, but we never can actually get to the end.  We spring from the dust and to the dust we return.  The rock keeps rolling back into place.  The only solution out of this dilemma is to find

meaning out of the seemingly meaninglessness of pushing the rock of our life.

Thinking life is a fruitless act of rolling a rock up a hell isn’t going to make you popular at parties.  It is a bleak template for existence.  For many, religion provides a ready made template for a meaningful life.  The comments on Mary Ann’s death showed that — ah, she lived up to the template, even though we have no knowledge of how her life actually was.  For Jay, most of the condolences were sadness for the family — ah, he didn’t live up to the template, it must be very sad and hard for his family.  Again, the default religious template was unconsciously applied to Jay’s life, but again, none of us actually know how his life was.

This is the problem with templates, whether it be a rolling rock or a religious ideology.  Anyone who has tried to create a website using a template knows this.  It can be very useful at times, very confining at times, and sometimes won’t allow you to do the things you have to or must do.  Ultimately, meaning comes at the end of a story, not during it.  Sort of like saying the meaning of a football or basketball game is determined by how well you play the second quarter.

So my search for meaning has brought me at last to the story, to the narrative.  If our desire as humans is to find meaning from existence, a story with a beginning, a middle and a climax is the structure upon which to hang a life.   I want to draft stories for Mary Ann and Jay that transcend the tragedy of dying in middle age.  This is the story I will tell myself about both Jay and Mary Ann — stories of lives that sucked the marrow, were filled with joy and grief and that reconciled the inevitability of life with the things that brought them the most pleasure and joy.   The stories may not be true in a factual sense, but in a quest to find solace, peace and continue on with life knowing I will die, the truest knowledge there is.

I know I have crafted a narrative for myself.  I have a job that is focused on relieving financial strain on the debt stricken — think Robin Hood with the bankruptcy code instead of arrows.  I have five children and a grandchild and I watch their life narratives with a mixture of pain, joy and astonishment.  I occasionally write out my thoughts for others to read in the hopes that maybe, just maybe I bring a little solace or understanding to someone else.   I married a novelist, painter and poet, JulieAnn Carter-Winward, after reading one of her books.  In her, I found someone who could join me in writing a narrative of my own life, sans template.  Writing a life narrative on a blank page is wonderfully challenging.   I want a narrative that can’t be reduced to sound bites or comments on social media.  I want a narrative that is richer and more full than that offered by any religious or secular template.

What does all this mean in the face of death?  Not much.  But in the face of life, how the story goes means everything.  I hope the narrative stories of Jay and Mary Ann’s life provide solace to those who were close to them.  And even more importantly, I hope that the narrative stories of the rest of my classmates are contain rich, varied and beautiful plots that continue to spin out in beautiful divergent lines from our shared classrooms over thirty years ago.

Dear FaceBook Friends: I Do NOT Like 50 Shades of Grey

January 7, 2013 § Leave a comment

A Digital Book World (DBW) post showed up on my wife’s FaceBook stream with a Photoshopped picture of a book cover for “50 Shades of Hunger Games” — and my face. “Since when do you like “50 Shades,” she chortled. The best I can figure out, because I had clicked “Like” on DBW’s Facebook page in get this — 2010 — Facebook had allowed DBW to send their post out to all my friends — as if I had done it. Just because I liked DBW in 2010 on Facebook doesn’t mean I want all my acquaintances with my mug talking about 50 Shades of Grey or The Hunger Games — I’m not the mindless, mass produced book mania kind of guy.

Now if DBW had asked and wanted to use me in their advertising campaign on FaceBook, I would have opted in if they were going to talk about why so much of traditional publishing’s backlist is unavailable in digital format along with a picture of Milan Kundera’s mug. Otherwise, leave me the hell out of your advertising campaign. It impugns my credibility and independence by co-opting my name and face for your ad.

I’m not sure who to be most angry at — DBW for an ill-advised ad campaign or FaceBook for making it possible to flood the streams of friends of unknowing FaceBook-ites.   I admit I’m somewhat of a FaceBook neophyte judging by the vast unanswered quantities in my various FaceBook icons on the top of my FaceBook page. I did a quick Google search for “facebook ads based on likes”. (Yes, I used Google to find the FaceBook stuff). In case you are wondering, it appears I was a victim of some form of “Connection Targeting.”

When you choose to target friends of connections your ad will be targeted to people whose friends are connected to your Page, app, or event. This is a great way to get more likes and potential customers because people are more inclined to interact with a Page, app, or event knowing that their friends are connected. Friends of connections are also more likely to be interested in what you’re advertising because they may share the same interests as their friends.

Uhh, more like a great way to piss off your connections who liked you once upon a time if you are going to put their Face up along with 50 Fucking Shades of Grey. So there DBW, be warned about your ill-conceived advertising bullshit. I apologize to any of my friends who seem to think I started smoking anything that is still illegal in Utah. I remain a literary snob.

As for you FaceBook, I get it — you went public and now you have to figure out some way to make money, but please leave my face out of it.

A Response to Michael Bourne and Reading Fewer Books

January 5, 2013 § Leave a comment

I just got through reading Michael Bourne’s article over on The Millions: My New Year’s Resolution: Read Fewer Books.   My initial reaction was how stupid a New Year’s Resolution is that?  Then I read the 24 comments after and realized that it was as inane and condescending as my initial repugnance suggested, only much more so.  People are lazy asses and don’t want to read — fine, but it isn’t something to be lauded.

Writers are self-indulgent.  Let’s face it, we type something out with our word processor in the hopes that everyone will read our golden prose and tell us how phenomenally gifted we are.  Even the purists writing in longhand before their precious words are ever defaced by a mechanical act such as typing crave for nothing more than having those words they’ve written out illegibly, typeset and mass produced and stuck on the shelf at Wal-Mart and ogled endlessly by the adoring masses.  Let’s face it, most of the words we write are nuggets, but not of the gold variety.

Bourne unfortunately carries the same surname as the girl that I crushed on from first grade to sometime when I gave up the futile pursuit in high school, so I can’t be assured that my response to his article is completely sane, given my history with the name.  Yet, as I read the article, my initial reaction was maybe my New Year’s Resolution should be to read less articles on the Internet.  (Yeah, I know usage says ‘fewer’, I was just seeing if you were paying attention and you still knew what I meant.)

Bourne starts out the article telling us how many books he has read since he started keeping track on January 1, 2000 in some kind of millennial resolution and has read 776 books in the last twelve years, roughly half fiction and half non-fiction.  He then states how happy he was when he hit 720 books for a 60 a year average.

This is when the article got weird.  As a compulsive list-maker of the books I consume, tracking the books you read isn’t weird to me.  My millennial book list hit 760 on May 23, 2009.   Not weird in the least.  What was weird is that after reading three paragraphs about his compulsive list taking, Bourne writes this: “No one even knows I write lists.”  Uhh, yes we do.

Look, I read 204 books last year — yeah, I’m fucking competitive too.  And I have close family members who questions my voracious consumption of books.  And I have a day job that consumes vast quantities of my time and I have a young son in elementary school, not to mention four daughters in college.  And this all has what  to do with my reading and list making?  Absolutely jack squat.

The fact that in 2012 I broke the 200 barrier for the first time since first grade (a 44 year drought) was not a perverse form of satisfaction.  I relished it, cherished it and yes, I wanted to brag, but the accomplishment and internal satisfaction isn’t perverse.  Part of the human condition is to strive for improvement and growth and growth feels good — unless you are content being a couch potato, in which case I suggest less television viewing for a New Year’s Resolution, accompanied by reading more books.

The desire to track progress isn’t a bad thing either.  I like going back to 2002 and see the books I was reading and compare that to where I was at in my life.  Re-reading becomes more meaningful when the book is juxtaposed against your own life’s timeline.  And reading carnivorously  does not a genius make.  A simple number of books read speaks nothing of aptitude and genius, but merely one measure of quantity — page numbers being another.  The weight and gravity of the books read also carry significance.    “I read all of Kundera’s oeuvre in 2012” is more meaningful than any number.

Reading voraciously doesn’t mean that good writing isn’t appreciated and the books aren’t savored.  Think of reading like sex.  Would you ever have a New Year’s Resolution to have less sex in the New Year because I really need to learn to savor the essence of sexuality and come at it sideways?  That’s nuts and so is reading less as some sort of sacrifice to the Gods of Writing and Art.  If you have sex a lot, some of it will be mind blowing, swinging from the chandeliers, split you open and some will be nothing more than a feel-good romp.  It’s the same with reading. And like sex, reading transforms you in ways that you can’t predict or fathom.  Participating in an exchange with another human mind through the page alters your own sense of self, incorporates another person’s thoughts into your head and makes the world a more empathetic place.  You can’t read a broad spectrum of literature, non-fiction, essays, short stories and poetry and not alter how you see the world.  Each book, even if through its slipshod language it shows you how you don’t want things to be, focuses the world through a new lens and you will never be able to write or read exactly the same way again.

Each of us is given a limited amount of time on this planet.  The limited resource requires us to make choices on where to spend our time.  For those of us who love words, narratives and other people and want to write and communicate with the broader world, the cacophony of voices and constant harangue for our attention means that our New Year’s Resolution should not be to read less or fewer, but to read more and to read with more intent and direction.  Who knows Mr. Bourne, if I took your advice and read fewer books, that book I don’t read might be yours.

30 Years in 30 Seconds

August 14, 2011 § 7 Comments

Thirty seconds or possibly a minute was about how long I had.Hello.
I remember you and no, I didn’t have to look at your name tag to cheat (or I did).
Wow, haven’t seen you in a long time.
Where are you living now?
What are you doing?
That’s nice.  
How many kids?  Grandkids? I have one.
It really has been a long time.
Very nice to see you.

Time to move on.

It wasn’t so much as a reunion as it was a perverse form of sincere speed dating.  You really had a connection with these people many years ago and the thrill of being remembered, acknowledged and smiled at, created an immediate and pleasurable sense of belonging.  It was surprisingly powerful and it was the hope for these types of experiences that brought me back to the unfamiliar halls of what is now known as Davis High School.  The evening provided countless such experiences.

The pleasurable was countered with the realization that for whatever reason one or two of my classmates had de-friended me on FaceBook for —  I’m supposing — my perceived offenses in expressing my ambivalence towards the reunion.  If meeting people I hadn’t seen in 30 years for 30 seconds made me briefly feel really good, the rejection on FaceBook, was the equivalent negative reaction.

The rejection pain makes me realize that I have undoubtedly committed countless acts of hypocrisy.  I rejected people throughout the evening.  I recognized it as soon as the evening was done and it was too late to do anything about it.  If I didn’t engage you, didn’t talk to you, didn’t acknowledge you and it hurt your feelings, I’m sorry.  You really want to talk to me send me an email and I won’t bite.  This is my version of a plea for forgiveness for both the knowing and the unknowing assaults I’ve committed on social connection.

Acceptance into a social group is critical for human survival and we are all hard wired to want to belong.  The desire to belong is so strong and the negative emotional responses of not belonging are so painful, that we do whatever we can to eliminate the potentiality of rejection.   This can take the form of rejecting first, avoidance or collapsing into the clique we remember as “safe”.

I watched as people I knew fell back into the same groups as high school.  Maybe they’ve maintained those relationships, probably not, but those social connections, even after 30 years, have weathered time.  Think about who you spent most of your time with during the reunion.  It was with those former friends who provided you with the most safety and comfort.  Maybe the reunion was a nice reminder of a time when you had a group of friends who kept you safe from outside social rejection.

The desire to create a social group in which there was perceived safety manifest itself in the oddly placed prayer that launched dinner.  The retreat to the predominant religious culture surely felt safe and comforting to the majority believers.  But religion of this sort may comfort the majority, but when bringing back together a secular high school class, the prayer ran counter to its intended purpose,  a divisive, rather than inclusive act.  For something whose purported goal is to create a community of one heart, one mind and one soul, religion is a poor tool.  Compassion and empathy are much better tools if they are employed.

Aging was another theme of the evening, which is probably inevitable, since all of us are being faced with the specter of mortality, at the very least in our parents.  Bringing up mortality creates all sorts of unanticipated emotional responses.  Yet, we will all die.  All we have is our current lives, less 48 years.

Of those 48 years, each person carries memories that are as unique to them as the person themselves.  Throughout the night I was reminded of events, circumstances and classmates of which I had no recollection.  Did those things really happen?  Probably.  I had the reverse thing happen to me when I would recall something about another person and they had no recollection of the event.  These memory gaps were the more subtle rejections of the evening, “This was important to me, but not to you — ouch.” And I daresay they were prevalent.  Given the lapse of time, they were probably more prevalent than having two memories collide head-on on the same event.

So none of us remember anything the same from 30 years ago.  We cling to the groups that make us feel the safest against the onslaught of time.  We overdose on the saccharine sweet reconnection and acceptance, trying our best to ignore the aftertaste that lets you know that everything is just a little off kilter.

The act of reconnecting ironically turned into a reminder of how disconnected we have all become.

Now, Myron Casdorph told me that I was — and this was last night, and I’ve already forgotten, just imagine what 30 years did to me — grumpy, crabby or some similar epithet.  He was joking and I was laughing and in a way it was true — I am a little darker than most in my outlook.  The dark outlook for me illuminates those things that are truly giving off light.   Myron exuded the light and life of someone doing what they love and completely comfortable in his own skin.  I saw a lot of that last night.  Those were the people who inspired me the most because they seemed to have their life figured out.  They were real, genuine and most importantly, themselves.  To all of you who gave me that glimpse — thank you.  Makes me a little less crabby and a little less grumpy and a lot less dark.

A life has a trajectory and its propulsive force.  Like the space shuttle, we launched into our adult lives in 1981.  Several have experienced spectacular explosions and screw ups, while others have headed straight, never wavering, laser guided towards an intended goal.  My life, as with many others I’m sure, has felt more like a Lagoon ride gone off the rails.

Ultimately, the best thing the reunion gave to me was perspective on my current life, causing me to examine where I am heading and what is driving me.  Having my wife with me at the reunion provided that connection and base to my real world existence, throughout the  fantastical, brief and surreal reunions. The reunion came to a crashing close for me when real life text messages from children began pouring in.  I walked out of the halls of Davis High and remembered the feeling 30 years ago after graduation when I walked out of the school in the same general geographic vicinity, wondering where my life was going.  I had no idea, I felt scared, lost and giddy with the excitement of the unknown.

Last night, I walked out the high school doors again, but my step was more sure.  My wife sat waiting for me on a concrete abutment in the light of the full moon.  I took her hand and we walked to our car.  I realized that I know what drives my life.  I realized that about the best you can do with life’s controls is point them in a general direction and (to utilize a cliche because it works) hang on for dear life.  No longer, lost, scared or directionless, I was again giddy with excitement of heading into the unknown as I walked out the doors of my high school.

Positive Motivations

July 18, 2011 § 3 Comments

My previous high school reunion post was perceived by many as negative.  It wasn’t —  although it did employ numerous rhetorical devices that the cult of the positive find offensive.  You see, it is possible to be positive by being negative.   Warning Nostalgia Alert: Mrs. Beattie’s opening quote from her humanities class from that gloom and doomer, Socrates: “The unexamined life is not worth living.”

I had no need to post something to those who find solace and comfort in Facebook banalities.   For those from high school who really know me or have spent any time with me in the last thirty years, you would know that I’m a relatively well-adjusted, happy person.

I know for a fact that several of the people who commented negatively on the reunion page have undergone personal tragedy and quite possibly the reunion and the re-connection is something that is assuaging the pain.  My comments were not for them.  If the reunion is decreasing your pain in the rush of re-connection, congratulations, milk it for all you can.  For some, it does not.

My post was about what we forget in our rush to nostalgia.  Humans crave connection, including me.  I’m certain that some of those tracked down by the reunion committee are thrilled to be found and that someone cared enough to at least try and find their address.   In saying that maybe some don’t want to be found, that was a two edged positive comment:  first, don’t stress if you can’t find everyone (if someone want’s to be found and has the most rudimentary computer skills, they will find you) and second, if someone isn’t found, try and have compassion for why they might not want light shown on their current life.

Facebook gives a semblance of connection, but depth comes from examining, not observing  lives.   I got more out of the reunion page from my post than anything else, because I actually felt some connection with a few of you.

The gist of the comments were:  “Don’t be such a downer.  I thought you were a happy person.”

I am happy and extremely content.  I wasn’t particularly brave by posting an alternate viewpoint — I did it because I knew that the anticipated and realized negative responses wouldn’t have any impact on my life, while I might be able to say something to the few who would like to say something,  can’t.  I make my living helping people who are struggling financially –Robin Hooding  is a satisfying career.  I also have a beautiful wife, who writes amazing books, five children and a beautiful grandchild.  Yes, we’ve had our familial tragedies, but I’ve weathered them without anyone from my high school class.

So those are my motivations in posting my anger over the nostalgia — not that I’m not as guilty as anyone else of being nostalgic or craving to play the hierarchical “how do I compare” game at the reunion or curiosity to see what 30 years did to my former classmates — but as a warning to myself and those who will listen to not forget the human suffering and do what little we might be able to do to assuage it.  To me, that is the most positive of motivations.

Reflections on My 30 Year High School Reunion

July 17, 2011 § 4 Comments

Unlike some of you, I remember damn little from high school, which maybe isn’t surprising given how long it has been. If our lives are broken down into what we can remember, the years up through high school represent only the first third of our remembered existence — that first third in which our roots warped and determined our future growth.

Out of the life plants growing out of the same teenage educational soil, an entire ecosystem has evolved. Maybe that is the compulsion I feel to visit the Class of ‘81’s FaceBook page — to see what has grown, what remains stunted, what has died. Our lives now range from the resplendent to the barren, from the ornate to the impoverished in ways that could not have been imagined 30 years ago.

Which doesn’t quite explain why most of what I see and read on the FaceBook page makes me so angry. Maybe my roots from high school twisted me into a bitter 48 year old, but I don’t think so. The anger I feel is against the nostalgia, against the yearning for past connections that have withered into the mulch that fertilized our current incarnations.

Nostalgia —  a convenient denial mechanism of the present.

And what is more teenage than feelings of isolation, fear and outsider-ness? Every time I see the push to “find” everyone, I wonder — what if they don’t want to be found? What if they want absolutely nothing to do with the people that treated them like shit in high school? And oh yes, look at that puffy, stupid hair styles we all had.

Statistics are bastards, because the Class of 81 is not immune to them. We can recognize  the 12 deaths, but what about the deaths of children and spouses? What about the mental illness, adultery, divorce, imprisonment, alcohol and drug addiction, unemployment (quite possibly at least 10% of our class right now, probably more)? In other words, no special treatment for our minions. And oh yes, didn’t the D-ettes look hot in those boots.

The trivialities of high school pale in the face of killing and war. I’ve had the great honor to talk to former inhabitants of the halls that teemed with our teenage hierarchy about their experiences killing. Killing someone changes a person. I found my pacifist self struggling against the knowledge that killing can be a simple, necessary act coming from a simple choice — kill or be killed. I listened and if I had found myself in the same situation — I would have killed too. And oh yes, isn’t it funny guys wore short shorts playing sports in the early 80s.

Maybe my rage against nostalgia is simply a rage against those who seem to find solace in an escape to the past, a solace that feels as inaccessible to me as a high school clique. I find no comfort in the naive, arrogant, self-righteous 18 year old that was me.

The Digital Tipping Point — Why 12% is More Like 80%

July 6, 2011 § Leave a comment

Statistics can be such a misleading thing — take the latest: 12% of the United States has eReaders.   Not very many is it — only 12%.  Yet, something nags at my mathematical brain — a stat I remembered hearing.  I found a lot of reference to it, but could never verify it, yet it has that ring of truth — namely, 80% of American households didn’t buy a book in the last year (could never find the original source, so it may be apocryphal, but it smacks of relevance when 30% don’t know who the US declared independence from in 1776) . Now, that 80% chunk of the population is not going to buy an eReader and even assuming the other 20% buy an equal number of books, eReaders have tipped and most books are now bought in digital format. Amazon’s public announcements also mirror this.

Bottom line — the relevant stat is not what percentage own an eReader, but what percentage of book buyers buy digital books — and I know that is much higher than 12% .  If you want to sell a book these days, you better get it in digital format.